Category Archives: life attitude

Meaningful Together

Ever stop to think about what you’re doing and why? about what we as a nation are creating and why?

So here’s a tiny hypothesis: maybe the real depression we’ve got to contend with isn’t merely one of how much economic output we’re generating — but what we’re putting out there, and why. Call it a depression of human potential, a tale of human significance being willfully squandered….

via Create a Meaningful Life Through Meaningful Work – Umair Haque – Harvard Business Review.

Today is Monday, and most of us are going back to work after a weekend, after a Super Bowl. We’re going back to jobs we left last week, to do things we left pending Friday. Some of us are at desks. Others are walking past lockers to an assembly line. Still more are getting things ready for dealing with customers or cleaning up after messy folks.

In the article linked above, Umair asks important questions about what we are doing and how it’s effecting our bottom lines, our lives, and our legacy down the road. He asks if it stands the test of time, if it stands the test of excellence, and if it stands the test of you – in the end, was it meaningful and was it worth it? Those are big questions, deep things for us who are just trying our best to do our thing and to answer YES to each of them.

I’ll add one that, as I read it, is also in the mix of the articles thoughts and questions: does it make life better for those we are with now and for those to follow after?

We do not work in a vacuum. The work we do today impacts people today, and will add something to the mix for tomorrow in ever-widening ripples of influence. I think the way we do that work has as much of an effect as what it is we’re working on. What we make and how we make it is important for now and for later. Yes, economic success is important – but alongside is relational success, being friendly and kind, and working hard with good attitude. Those things all work together to make something worth making. Meaning comes from the experience of the whole, not just the end of the means. Worth comes from the time together and the progress made at least as much as the end result.

So today, we decide to work hard at the same time we decide to play nice together. We add “smile more” and “say thanks” to the to-do list’s tasks and meeting reminders. We will think things through for not only if this will work but also throwing in questions like “is this the best we can do?” and “would my kids be impressed?” - I have the feeling that this is the kind of thing that, if acted upon, will make a bigger difference. And it’s not just the feel-good emotional side, but the very bottom-line economics of our world that will feel the effects of meaningful and relational work practices taking each other into account as well.

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Kickstarting Monday

Have you thought about what success means for you right now?

Satisfaction is keeping us from our best work

I think it was Steven Pressfield who said that if you do something long enough, if you get serious about any craft (including writing), there comes a time when it begins to “kick your ass.” When you break down and cry, because it’s just so hard — that’s a great place to be.

via Are You Satisfied? | Goins, Writer.

As I watch the GOP debates and last week’s State of the Union, I’ve noticed that “success” is a hot topic. The President wants to point to successes in the economy while the opposing Party wants to point out the lack. Among themselves, some Republicans want to make a big deal of one candidate’s wealth while playing down their own inconsistencies. It’s like we’re not sure what success should be, not completely on board on what it looks like.

Maybe that’s what made Jeff Goins’ post linked above stand out to me: satisfaction might be hiding us from what real success can be. In the context of the election, the debates, and the primaries, all of these folks are successful. As some leave the race, they’re still successful. Win or lose, they are successful in what they’re doing. Are any of them satisfied? I don’t think so – or at least, if a front-runner becomes complacent, it looks like the market corrects itself and that candidate loses a key state or falls too deep in the polls. It’s either a wake-up call or a “suspending my campaign” press conference.

Do we give up too easy, though? Do we press through only so far, then when it gets too tough of things don’t go the way we thought… “well, God must not be in this…” and we stop moving forward. Resistance causes us to change direction at best, to turn around altogether at worst.

But resistance is where we find we need more push. Obstacles show us where we need more dexterity and flexibility. Problems and downturns might be just the thing we need to work out something even better – not to necessarily park the car and stop the journey.

Where there’s satisfaction, there’s not much drive. Where there’s success-to-a-point, we find folks stopped and stagnating. I’m just wondering this morning if I’m ready to push through the good parts, to give some oomph to the resistance, and to find a new level of success somewhere through all that.

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We Don’t Need a Different Way… We Need Better

I’ve come to a theory that most of us don’t do things THE BEST WAY. Instead, we typically do things THE WAY IT FIRST MADE SENSE. Maybe it was a good teacher, or well-written process instructions. Maybe it’s something you figured out on your own.

Whatever way you learn, that’s most likely the path you’ll continue to take until there’s an outside force to jostle you into a different way of seeing the world.

This should be a good thing, giving us some stability, something to live out, to pass on to the next generation or next workers coming behind us.

Most of the time, I think it’s a good state of the world for all involved.

Except when we are incapable of learning new, better ways to do those same things.

Except when we close ourselves off to growth, to success, to potential for better results.

Except when we consider our own finite perspectives to be the totality of truth.

Then, in those cases and more, we fail to grow. And loyalty to a set way of thinking becomes detrimental to our well-being.

This is not a rant, just an observation. I’m in the middle of this like everyone else. But I hope that there’s room in my worldview to be wrong, to recognize that, and to look for better.

People don’t want different. Not in their politics. Not on American Idol. Not in their peanut butter.

People want better. Better might be different. But it’s a better different. It’s better first, and that in itself is different.

People want better. Better will be different, because it’s better.

But we’ve got to look for better. We’ve got to be open to better. We’ve got to learn better and then do better and then share better.

So that the next generation can learn better from us, can be better workers and teachers after us, can grow and succeed after us.

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The Power of Positive Whatever

A strange game. The only winning move is not to play. How about a nice game of chess?
- Joshua/WOPR, WarGames

Here in South Carolina, constituents are being blitzed by ad campaigns from GOP candidates for President of the United States. A handful of commercials on TV tout the plans of their candidate. Mostly, the rest of them hammer each other with fear and trembling. It might be two to one, negative to positive. It’s been much worse in elections past, and who knows if it’ll get more scathing as the week goes on.

NOTE FROM MANAGEMENT: this is NOT a political advertisement. – the Editors

But what gets me is that there are a number of these ads touting the “most important issue is beating Obama”. And each time one of these plays out across my TV screen, I want to grab an ad agency and ask if that’s the BEST they can do? Really?!? (… picture Kermit on SNL a few weeks ago with Seth Myers on Weekend Update, flailing arms and “rreeaallyy?!?”… like that)

This post is not a stance for any candidate, nor is it meant to bash one side over any other. Rather, regardless of the political race, I’m holding this truth to be self-evident:

Being FOR something will beat out being AGAINST something every time.

Let me lay out how I see this working:

  • When I posted that sentiment on my facebook wall the other day, a friend said I’m just arguing semantics. And perhaps she’s right, and I do have a tendency to do just that with the meanings of words and such. Yes, even when we became a country, it was to separate ourselves AGAINST the tyranny back in the Old World. Even here, however, I think it was our country’s forefathers’ fight FOR freedom that won out against Britain’s fight AGAINST rebellion.
  • I replied on the facebook post that it’s like being for godliness or being against sin: “Both have a spot on the docket, but the focus towards godliness has a better chance to lead to abundant life, I’m thinking, while taking care of the against by default.”
  • My biggest sticking point is the idea that one candidate’s best option is that he or she is not the other candidate. Really? If your best selling point is that you’re not the other, then you probably need to find a new line of work.
  • And we take this out of the realm of politics and religion. It’s a truth in all of life: moving forward, at least mentally, emotionally, and philosophically, has a real chance of succeeding AND taking care of the against part in the process. But if we’re only against that thing, then we have no real goals to shoot for, do we? In your job, work FOR being a better employee rather than just trying to save your job. If you’re an athlete, play to win instead of playing to not lose. In your family, grow to be a better parent, not just trying to be something different from your own parents.

Life goes better, goes faster, goes with some excitement and oomph when it’s lived FOR something bigger, something better, something improved and outside the norm of the past and present. We strive towards the better. We fight hard when there’s a goal, a dream, a chance for great things. We yearn for something more, not just a different something else. That’s the power behind just being positive instead of negative. That’s where your encouragement and inspiration will come from. That’s where the hard work will payoff. Be FOR whatever it is ahead for you…

But just being against something – well, I’m against that.

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